When it comes to forgiving cheaters, there seem to be two basic schools of thought– 1) Once a cheater always a cheater and 2) everyone deserves a second chance. Does it have to be one or the other? Is it possible that both notions could be correct depending on how and why the cheating occurred. Take a look at what the advice panel has to say.
Tina of LuvemOrLeavem
Abiola of PlanetAbiola
Nando of Nandoism
Kim & David of EnergyTalkRadio
I do not think a cheater should be given a second chance, but thats just my opinion.
My feeling is: It will always be in your mind. You can never have that 100% trust. You need trust to make a relationship last.
I still feel the same. And seeing you only have boys you could build the doll house for yourself.I work on it while watching TV.
I wrote a post on this not to long ago…my bottom line is…if you cannot forgive…then you better forget.
It is not an easy commitment. It really depends on the people involved and the circumstance that lead up to the breech!
It would be a very hard thing to forget. I think there would be leftover resentment.
It’s easy to forgive, the hard part is forgetting.
I can forgive, that’s easy, however moving on in the relationship is very hard if the trust is missing or broken. I would say it depends on how you found out, if your spouse told you or someone else and what your relationship was like prior to the cheating. Let’s say you found out from someone else, I would say no way and move on, but if you found out from your spouse within a decent time frame and the two of you love each other and are willing to work on this moving forward, then go for it.
once the trust is broken it is very difficult to accept your spouse and even if you want to forget everything and start fresh, you only see images of the 2 cheaters everywhere. Moreover you resent anything your spouse has to say and you are totally put off. Only a miracle can save your marriage after that.
The worst part of infidelity is that your spouse does not want to talk about it but he expects you to accept him without any hitch . I don’t understand why men want a roll in the hay every now and then. Is it to boost their ego or are all men polygamous? If the tables are turned and a woman goes and has an affair, it hurts the male ego to such an extent that their world comes crashing down. Men are such MCPs.