Do the best relationships start with friendship? Or do the best relationships start with romance and along the line you also become friends? This is a debate that seems to be raging across relationship blogs lately. Of course there are people that passionately argue for each of these scenarios.
On the side of “friendship first” are those that believe that a low pressure, friendship kind of relationship is the best way to really get to know each other before taking the next step. On the side of “romance first” are those that believe that once you start viewing someone as a friend all hopes of romance are squashed. I actually think that it varies depending on your personality. I know people that throw themselves full force into searching for that special someone, and their efforts lead them to find that perfect match. I know others who have reluctantly tried this approach and found it to be disastrous. Instead, they expanded their circle of friends and found their perfect match while seemingly putting no effort into the search for love because they did it while during the course of pursuing the interests and activities that they enjoyed most.
I tell you this, because when it comes to internet dating the people that seem to do the best are the ones that throw themselves into the love finding process full force. Their more laid back counterparts are often left wondering why they can’t seem to meet anyone on internet dating sites. If you find yourself in this more laid back category, then you may want to consider giving LifeKnot a try in your search for “the one.” LifeKnot is part dating site, part social networking site and it is centered around helping members find other members that share their favorite interests.
The activities that members categorize themselves under on LifeKnot range from the most extreme of sports to writing poetry. Members can also categorize themselves by the type of music that they enjoy or the types of movies and television shows that they watch. The site really caters to people who want their primary focus to be on sharing the things that they love to do with others that have these interests with a secondary benefit being that they may find love along the way.
You’ll notice right away that the emphasis on this site is definitely on finding those that share your passion for your favorite activities rather than having to share what you want most out of a life partner. They have a list of over 1300 activities that members can search among, so if your passion is not just for kayaking but specifically the more extreme version called white water kayaking, you’ll find a category for it on LifeKnot.
So, if you’re a fan of the laid back approach to looking for love or if you’re not even sure that you want to give up your single lifestyle, then LifeKnot is definitely a site that you should visit. I know that many of you believe that love will find you when you least expect it, so why not get out there and enjoy the activities you’re passionate about while you’re waiting for love to find you.
To learn more about LifeKnot or to create a free profile visit http://www.lifeknot.com.
It’s ideal to start a friendly relationship before jumping into an intimate one. Getting into different levels of intimacy will make the relationship stronger. Trust is not gain in a short time that’s why it is advisable to take things slowly so the chances of making a mistake will be lessen.
I agree with you if it depends on someone’s personality, for me I like to make friend first before entering the romance stage, but for dating site, till now I haven’t tried it, because I prefer to meet with the person directly.
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Well, I like to take things slow. Start with friendship and let things blossom from there. =)
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Women don’t say it, but it’s common knowledge, “nice guys finish last.” If she is into you from the beginning, you can keep a woman at bay, give her little nuggets to let her know that you are interested and you want to get the romantic stage. But if the woman doesn’t turn around to see you if you’re burning in flames(you’re so hot, obviously not to her), then it ain’t gonna happen.
It is far too uncommon for relationships to begin with friends, then best friends, and then lovers. Look at ‘Twilight’, both of them were hyperventilating as soon as they saw each other, yeah, they did ‘wait’ to get with each other, but it does not negate the fact that it was obvious where the relationship was going. I’m not basing real life to a vampire movie, let’s forbid that any of us fall for those fantasies, lol. What I am saying is that, the reality of it is, we are creatures of nature, we will follow our natural instincts. It is in our nature to hunt, find, and mate. The man knows and the woman ought to admit she knows, friendship does not ‘ordinarily’ come before love. Love itself is a conquerer, nothing is above it, not even ‘friendships’.
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I am one of those that blogged about this recently (I know you know that
), and believe that friendship first is for me. Takes most, if not all, of the pressure out of the game.
Having written about friend first or romance first, I had to write about how woman put men into a category of “Friend” or “Something more” and how woman will, after some time, put men into the friend category if he doesn’t make a move for a while.
Hank and I fell into the romantic category immediately. But distance did force us to develop a friendship as well. I don’t know if I agree with your description of the “Romance First” type, but that’s me all the way. Give me romance or go home.
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I’ve always been friends first in my relationships, but there was always an initial attraction. Basically we would just wait patiently until someone made the first move. I don’t know, I can see how that method might not seem the best for some, but it’s the ideal option for shyer people like myself.
I absolutely believe that friendship makes the best foundation for a relationship. s it grows, so often love does too and the foundation is stronger.
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That reminds me of the chicken or the egg question. Both friendship and romance are important in a relationship and as long as you have both, either could come first.
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I think I would agrue that it can work either way. Not every relationship works in the same way or starts the same.
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Yippie!! A question I can answer with absolute certainty. My love and I became friends, then best friends, and then finally lovers. We each earned the others trust and respect above all else. Even now we know that if our relationship threatens to turn sour, its the best friends part we could not bear to lose.
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